Outrageous Behaviour

Have you noticed in the work you do and the conversations you have, that it’s all the same? Potential customer conversations, existing customer conversations, colleagues, friends and family conversations and outcomes… it’s all the same and you’re feeling over it? Have you ever asked yourself, what’s the point or why am I doing this? When you ask these types of questions alarm bells should be going off in your head as you are having what I call a ‘mediocre moment’. Yes, they’re normal, it’s just that most people sit and live in a mediocre moment for the following day, week, month, year, decade or even longer. Here are three outrageous strategies on how to get out of the mediocre and into the magnificent.

1.Spend Time with Big Thinkers
The best advice I ever had was from one of my mentors who said: “Be careful who you let near your mind Jen, and that includes me!” How many times have you surrounded yourself with people who think small, negatively or see the worst in everything? These people creep into your world and start gossiping and talking about how bad things are. If you are not diligently protecting your mind-space, you start speaking, thinking and behaving like them. Stop right now and take stock! Who is in your mental space that inspires you, causes you to think creatively and be in action? If you have someone, that’s great, if you don’t, list five people who you know or would like to know and make an appointment right now to meet them and spend time with them. Remember, YOU are in control of who you spend time with. You do NOT have to spend time with people who do not inspire you. If you must be with a draining person plan to limit the time with them. The best way to do this is to say at the start of the meeting or discussion: ’Look I’ve only got 20 minutes to discuss this issue, is that ok with you?’. Then stick to the time and at 18 minutes, say: ‘OK, that’s it for me, I’ve got to go in 2 minutes’. How outrageous!

2.Create Blatant Promotion Around You
If you want to turn your extended world around, start to promote, endorse and acknowledge friends, clients and colleagues. Tell everyone about them, their latest achievements, how they make a difference in the world. Be a promoter and endorser of the magnificent. It’s a simple strategy and has far reaching impact as you are creating a world around you that is acknowledged and encouraged and you will also be inspired by the company you keep. Remember, just one positive comment can make the world of difference to someone’s confidence, courage and commitment. Stepping up and being the catalyst in this type of conversation is not the Aussie norm – I say… it should be. Go on, be outrageous!

3.Random Acts of Generosity
Most mediocre moments are when a person has been focusing on themselves too much for too long. If this is you, lift your head up and notice the people around you and start to be of service to others. Random Acts of Generosity such as giving a compliment, smiling at someone, listening to another, letting someone else go first, giving flowers or small gifts, just because you can, will lift you and the other person out of the slumber of mediocrity, sameness and boredom and spark a light of possibility, potential and power. In my experience, I have found that mediocre people say and do nothing and expect everything. Magnificent people say and do what needs to be said and done and expect nothing. Generosity kills mediocrity. What a simple yet outrageous thought!